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These social media tools have double use, so if you're only using them super-publicly, adding tons of “friends” you don't know, you might be surprised how Twitter/Facebook feel completely different when you're only following a few real friends. Then you really can enjoy sharing and hearing about the tiny things that shape our days.

 

 

 

Ask interesting questions.

 

 

Ask good questions that you think people will enjoy answering creatively and succinctly. Examples:

 

 

    * “Complete: I need more ___ and less ___.”

 

    * “What comes first: thoughts or feelings?”

 

    * “What's the opposite of music?”

 

 

 

I've been fascinated with the amazing responses that come back from people. Surprisingly insightful, creative, or funny.

 

 

(When I asked, “What's the opposite of music?”, 200 people answered with interesting variations on chaos, silence and nothing. But then came my favorite answer:  “Business.”)

 

 

It's like songwriting. Be artistic.

 

 

Think about songwriting or poetry: You've got something you want to express, but instead of just spewing it out bluntly, you choose to do it artistically within certain limitations.  Like fitting an idea into 12 syllables, where the last word needs to rhyme with “train”.

 

 

Instead of telling every detail, you use a few key words that give the gist, then leave the rest open to the listener's imagination.

 

 

Sometimes, like a songwriter, I feel like documenting or expressing something big that happened to me, but don't feel like writing an article about the whole story.  So I compress it into an intriguing short post, letting imagination fill in the details.

 

 

For example, when my only one-night-stand told me a year later that she was briefly pregnant (because of me), and I was wrestling with the thoughts and emotions behind that, I felt the need to share just: “Found out I was a dad for 10 weeks.”

 

 

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